Hi there Bookworm257,

I think it's great that you've become more aware, and the fact that a level of guilt for putting yourself first all the time is present, does indicate a conscience - which is important for the person self improving.

Now, are you selfish? Well, maybe you're being a little bit selfish at times, hehe, but don't worry, we're all the same in that respect, in my opinion. It's an important question to ask on the path of personal growth.

But I think if you want to feel less guilty, though, there's only one way that I know & suggest: and that's to just do a little bit towards those situations you pointed out where you've put yourself first all the time. Maybe send the occasional text to someone and ask 'how are you going?' or hop up and ask your folks if they need a hand with something, things like that. It is a bit of a self sacrifice but that's okay, it's for the best. It's always good to see people doing things for others without being asked, even just little things.

And also, just the fact that you're putting in the effort towards self change, is very good.

Great stuff Bookworm257.