Hi Mattie welcome to Psych Central.

I Am sorry you were unable to get any real validation and closure for yourself when your mother passed. I know that the one brother you were able to talk to really disappointed you when he did not respond to what you shared with him. Please know this is not because his choice was to dismiss you but instead more about how he did not know how to validate and comfort you. That is typically the curse a narcissistic parent leaves behind in their children.

I am also very sorry that even at your mothers end she would not acknowledge or admit her wrongs with you. Unfortunately all too often that does happen.

It’s a heavy thing to work through have you talked to a therapist at all about these challenges you have shared here?