Quick update. It's not an emotional affair. I had it confirmed by several emails that it is most definitely sexual in nature. I was initially confused about how she is acting like she didn't want a divorce and because of that I was reluctant to file the paperwork. That and I believed her when she said it wasn't physical. It is physical and emotional and it's continuing today, (she is currently on a business trip with him) all things considered my questions have been answered and I will be filing for divorce as soon as I can. Thanks for the help and I will continue to dig through the forums for helping my kids through this terrible time.