It’s true that a lot of people like to use that label because it’s an easy way to identify others that can present with behaviors that can be a challenge to deal with.

I am married to a man that has both adhd and dyslexia and I often wonder if he may have an issue with ocd as well. My husband can be loud and reactive and he also can struggle with anger. If you read about this challenge you can learn my husband exhibits the behavior patterns described. Because of our age the behaviors my husband often presents were not recognized so that he had the right help so he could learn how to better manage his challenges. So as a result he self medicated with alcohol. This is something I have learned many like him end up doing.

One could misunderstand these behaviors and label him as a narcissist. Yes he does have some narcissistic traits. However a lot of his behaviors are due to how his brain is wired.

Ironically yesterday he was putting together a quote for a job with another guy that also has dyslexia and adhd. My husband mentioned with a bit of pride that he proof read the quote and noticed some mispellings the other guy made. Well it’s a big deal when your brain is not set up to spell and embrace language the way that comes natural to others.

One of the things this guy did mention to my husband is how he doesn’t like it when people get loud. This is something I have had a problem with for years with my husband. So while one individual with adhd and dyslexia can be loud another with these same challenges can be sensitive and not loud.

I have a grand nephew that had a big problem with temper tantrums and meltdowns. He was finally diagnosed with aspergers. He struggled in school because his teachers would push him when he kept asking them to stop. He kept trying to explain how his brain would get overwhelmed and they would not listen and he would end up having a melt down.

I happen to be exposed to many individuals like my husband. Many alcoholics have these challenges like my husband. Just this morning I overheard my husband trying to support a friend in the program that just in the past few days had three individuals he sponsored unable to handle the stress of this covid 19
Impact all drank themselves to death.

We all like to toss a label to simplify for ourselves. Labeling individuals that present social challenges as narcissists has most definitely become a mainstream trend. However often it’s a lot more complex than that which requires individuals that are trained to examine and even these individuals make errors.

I doubt this trend of quick labeling will stop as it’s become a strong trend and is used by many.