Thanks for your reply. Additional info: I have tried to express my feelings in a non accusatory way several times. I have tired to be the bigger person and just demonstrate how i'd like to be treated consistently regardless of how I am being treated in return. Tried to get him to read love language book. None of those have worked. He also refuses to go to counseling. When we try to talk things out i find myself scared and then i cant think of what i should say and i end up sounding stupid and walk away thinking that i am being melodramatic or ashamed for bothering such a good hardworking man that provides me with everything... I am feeling so hopeless and trapped. I have always been able to deal in a capacity able to allow me to function at work and to take care of our children but i am finding it harder and harder.