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Originally Posted by LilyMop
I’m struggling with people pleasing. I’m working with my counselor to really put a stop to this behavior.
Do you find that speaking up or speaking your opinion causes you to lose friends or creates conflict with coworkers?
I used to be very quite spoken. I’m still mostly pretty quiet but I do speak up. Lately I’ve been feeling really vulnerable and uncomfortable and I honestly don’t want to say much of anything to anybody. I just don’t like the discomfort and tension that comes when people dislike your personality or the things you say or believe in.
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Lilymop,
I definitely have that problem, everytime I open my mouth with people it gets me into trouble whether they say so or not I get these feelings like I shouldn't say anything, but that cant be right either.
I think its healthy to speak up for yourself, it shows your own accountability and where you stand, I do believe the right people will find you no need to make others comfortable and neglect what you may feel is right or correct.
People don't have to like it but accept that there are others that may feel or think differently and I need to accept that as well. Sometimes their angle or view will help me better shape my own even if they disagree with some parts of me.
Feel better I think your on the right track.