It’s possible, actually the thought has crossed my mind.
However, I have seen him be much more interested in other women than he has ever been with me. He also looks at porn online. I think he’s just too lazy to have sex with me these days. Plus we’ve been together for 20 years- since teens.
Also he was not as OCD before we had children so that would not make sense.
I’d be glad to give him compassion or anything I could do to help the situation. Especially if he had a sensitivity disorder. But as many things as I’ve tried and as many cruel outbursts he has had it is very difficult.
I think if we divorced he’d either have to change or find someone else to manage or just have someone without kids. Although he doesn’t allow us to go out to eat or shopping so I don’t know how he’d date anyone. He puts a lot of effort into checking the bank account and stuff like that. I think if he cared, he’d put in effort.
I’m really starting to open my eyes because my daughter is now 8 and she’s starting to say things that trouble me. I am certain to never talk to her about adult things or our personal issues. I never undermine him... but she will say things like, how come dad laughed with his friend on the phone but he never laughs with us. Or I’m glad dads not here I’m really enjoying playing today mommy. Or daddy hurt my feelings when he told me my necklace was stupid and I’m not allowed to wear it.

It just all runs so deep over so many years. It’s like I don’t even know where to start or what to do. I want to do the right thing.