There is such a large dynamic that we don't see here, to flat out feed information to someone such as sdfrew, jeopardizing this family, not even having a 1/16th of the information that encompasses this relationship and all the different connections forming it may not be the best way about this.

I don't know sdfrew something about getting outside advice on a family dynamic that has developed without the other side just seems wrong, not to condone any of the actions of your husband, without being malicious are you able to analogize his behavior or adapt your feelings back on to him self.

quick story... Girlfriend left the house late at night I asked where she went she lied then shut her phone off, I thought she was cheating and I stayed home, she ended up not coming home. Early that morning I called her sister crying asking have you heard from her, then told her I thought she may be cheating on me. She told me she had never thought of the other person when shes cheated in the past on her bfs and that she doesn't want to make someone feel like that again, assuring me her sister isnt capable of this.

Sometimes we don't realize our power and the ability to tear someone down if he can start to understand outside of maliciousness but through care maybe you have a chance for comprehension.