I would agree with Sarah and openeyes, if your daughter witnesses bit and pieces as she gets older it may mold certain aspects of her. Sorry I missed that part.
Your in a tough situation, does he know detrimental his actions have been toward you? The porn will lead to lack of sex It did in terms of myself, along with other aspects we may not know from his view.
Are you leaning towards explaining yourself better or in a different way? Are there any opinions here that spurred different thoughts or perceptions?