Over the years, I've worked with a few different pdocs. Although each was a little different, each had his/her own gifts to bring to the table.
There were 3 different ones where I'd thought I could never work with them. I stayed with them a little longer and each of those relationships were very helpful.
I'd realized it was important for me to acknowledge each one's talents, to put my best foot forward and to look for the silver lining.

I have found it's important to express concerns about the therapeutic relationship directly to the pdoc. Often, any misunderstandings can be cleared up.
For some, its very helpful to journal such concerns first. If I recall correctly, you do very well with expressing yourself in writing, while you tend to have more difficulty verbalizing when meeting with a pdoc?
in this case, it may be important for you to mention this initially, in order to see if s/he is fine with this approach. I think most will be just fine with this approach. I have heard of some running into pdocs insisting otherwise.

If a pdoc does not listen, is not helpful and/or is abusive, it's time to move on.

I wish you well and hope you'll connect with the best pdoc for you!