I don’t think anyone can convince anyone else to do anything (unless they aren’t legal adults or were kidnapped and force to do what PC tells them to do). If the person asks what others think she should do, others are going to suggest what they think.

OP then can decide what and if she wants to use any of the suggestions. Hopefully adults don’t just do what anonymous forum participants tell them. Hopefully people consider pro and cons and make their own decision.

I worry that you think you might marry someone who’d just blindly follow what Internet forum tells them. Why would you think you ever marry such a person? Or you think people in general just blindly follow what they read on the internet? Do you think you’d not marry an independent thinking woman who’d make her own decisions after carefully considering other options? I wonder why you think that