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Originally Posted by Miguel'smom
I wonder why she said that? I asked her how long she was planing on staying with the company. She wouldn't give me an answer but told me she's been there 5 years. I guess there is a review every year with the director. She wanted the director to be my pdoc but that's a drive. Maybe if the ones I try the other suggestion.
Do you feel like she feels that you suck? I'm still unsure what a therapist can do for/with me.
I am wondering how you're feeling about it? Confused, even more confused after talking to H. T said I can ask everything I need about meds to my new pdoc or to call the pharmacist and ask. We talked a lot about what happens when I come of meds. I told H, he wants me to have emergency medication but that means calling pdoc and tell her. I hate disappointing people. It's so hard to think.
is this the person who you've only met once? No 8 months every 1-3 weeks.
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I'm sorry you're feeling confused
I think many of us have been ''trained'' to be ''people pleasers''.. often by ''primary caregivers'' and that could be partly why there is a feeling that even disappointing someone who is there to assist us, is a very ''bad thing''.... really they are not there to judge us. They might be disappointed, but maybe that is because they care ..... either way it is, imo, much better to be as honest as possible with her. And with the pdoc.
When the sessions are sometimes not every week.... that makes the whole thing harder imo.
I think that the idea in therapy is to have a collaborative relationship with a therapist, and to work together. A lot often depends on the ''quality of the relationship'' with the therapist, imo. If the therapist and client are not a good fit together, they clash, frequently misunderstand each other and for whatever reason these misunderstandings are not resolved and/or the therapist is very judgmental.... it will not help. It also helps if the client is clear in their mind what they want from the therapist .... I know it can be confusing at times, especially if the therapist is not very experienced ... or maybe is experienced in keeping things at a very surface level, and not being collaborative. These are just some thoughts I had just now, I am not an expert. If it doesn't make sense its fine to tell me, or to ignore the parts that don't make sense to you
