I can relate to your situation, so many things that seem to be out of your control or somehow beyond your ability to cope with. I rely alot on my wife to help me deal with stuff like paying the bills,keeping track of things we need to get done. Together we decide what is the highest priority. When I read your post these words came to my mind "where would I be without my wife"? and I felt thankful. You need help! I think that you need to establish some boundries of sorts to prevent yourself from feeling overwhelmed. like..."back off world, I need a moment here" then try to ascess what YOUR immeadiate needs are and deal with them FIRST, then (in my opinion) you'll have a much less distracted ability to focus on the things that require your attention. mental health is our greatest treasure, so the same philosophy of retaining wealth applies to it! PAY YOURSELF FIRST.