He said he was living beyond his means. We're not partyers, travellers, and don't buy expensive things.. so I'm not really sure what that means.

I looked at his latest bill for one of his credit cards and it all went to fast food and some groceries.

He said it began when I was pregnant with our 3yr old and said he wanted to impress everyone. He claims the $25 000 all went to groceries, restaurants, fast foods, gas, and clothing for the girls. We also bought a couple of furniture pieces together (paid half each). I'm assuming he meant he wanted his family and I to believe he was a good financial provider. I just thought he was spending his earned pay checks. He has a full time job plus two side jobs helping friends out. I asked him where "that" money went and he said to bills and credit card payments.

He's impulsive and had a history of bad credit when we met which I helped him clear (with his money). I begged him not to get a credit card and when he got one, anyway, I asked if he could at least put a $500 limit to it, like I've done. That way he can maintain his credit and not get sucked into further problems. He didn't take to my advice.

We're not married (common law) so I believe because it's under his name, the laws where we live makes this his debt, only. Of course, we have 2 children and so I'll have to double check if there are exceptions to this rule.

I feel like it's theft. The bill statement I saw said he had an $11 000 limit, and he went over it by some. It showed he made a $400 payment last month. I'm thinking the other 2 credit cards have been maxed out and ignored.

I financially contribute to our family. I'm collecting maternity benefits plus I tutor on the side. I pay all of my housing portion and bills down the middle. I buy groceries, clothing for our girls, etc.

I'm clueless about his "need" to do this.