"Financial infidelity can be overcome, of course, but it requires honest effort from both members of the relationship. Accusations won't solve the problem, nor will anger. It takes time, it takes communication, and it takes calmness. If you can't bring those to the table yourself, you are a big part of the problem."

I am calm. I'm not even angry. I'm depressed over it. Our whole relationship has been an uphill battle over honesty and communication.