This is an interesting point of reflection. I don't have any answers. I can only provide what I've tried during similar moments of contemplation.

First, I believe wholeheartedly in trying to focus on the side of things I wish to experience more. I believe we entrain with the types of thoughts we dwell upon and in turn we tend to experience more of the same as a result. However, and this is a big however.... I no longer think reprogramming my perspective is enough. Pushing my truth away has led me to repress things. Those repressed things always have a way of returning and the more I push them down, the harder they hit me when I return. They have somewhat of an elastic quality about them.

Lately I've been working with this more and more. When an aspect of myself surfaces and I do not like it, that is a red flag that I need to dig deeper. Every pattern of thought or experience has a root. Root systems are multifacted and complex and sometimes need to be viewed in stages. So first, I might ask myself why do I feel the way I do? What has occurred to create it? I go back in time as far as I can looking for experiences with the same theme. Next, I ask myself what role did I play? Sometimes I've played multiple roles. So for example, if I have a fear of a certain type of person I might see that there are times when I was hurt by them or when I hurt that type of person or when I was that type of person. I try not to get too literal and look for a match in the essence of intent.

Next, I ask myself how have I expanded as a result of these experiences. What did I learn from all of the roles I played? Then I forgive myself for playing the parts I played and I forgive others for their roles. I hold compassion for the experiences they have had that led them to hurt me. I forgive myself for what led me to my own foolishness.

Next, I set an intent. I set a desire to loop through the experience again, but greet it with acceptance over negativity and fear. When it comes around I try my best to remember that and welcome the pieces of myself I do not like so much back into my heart. I also welcome into my heart whoever is playing the other roles in the experience. I ask for forgiveness for judging them and thank them for teaching me. I do this quietly and internally.

Then I try to navigate together to the place I want to end up. Its the difference between negativity surfacing and dissociating from it and integrating it and moving forward together. It is hard to move when you leave bits and pieces of yourself anchoring you to experiences you don't want to deal with. We create them for a reason... I do not believe that the universe is so random or cruel that we are perpetually offered meaningless experiences in pain. I respect those who do believe that, but it is not my path. So I shift my behavior and whatever happens happens. If it comes up again I repeat the steps and keep doing my new thing until eventually the entire experience just kinda morphs to a better place.

Outside of all that I set an intent as often as possible to experience whatever is within my highest possible good each day. I practice gratitude daily and I ask for guidance from above as well as from those here who have infinite wisdom to offer. When I don't like where I am I ask for the wisdom to know what force to apply to shift it. When I feel guilty, I confess and forgive. When I am angry, I seek out a laugh. When I am too excited, I seek out the calm. I'm not always balanced and that isn't the goal. The spectrum of experience has a ton to offer. I just want to be able to drive and go where I please when a change is needed. That feeling of choice in the moment is what helps me to feel neutral.