I had a very good friend from college, which was a little more than 40 years ago. We kept in touch for a few years after I graduated; and then some time later, I had moved to an area where he was.

Some time later that friend got married. Just after he got married, he told me flat-out that since he got married, he didn't want me to contact him anymore. So it all ended just like that. That was 35 years ago.

I have this one other friend from college, and he was friends with my ex-friend. He's still is in contact with him. There are times when my friend mentions something about my ex-friend to me. I get upset whenever I hear his name. I have told my friend many times in the past that I never want to hear about my ex-friend. He still does it! He did it today even!

I have a local friend now who is much older than me. I talk about it with him and he says that I'm being silly. I don't think that I am. I feel like when my college friend mentions my ex-friend, it's like opening up an old wound. Am I over reacting about this? Is anyone else having to deal with this?