I do think therapy would be the most helpful option

but if it's something you can't afford or are unwilling to do, you could try, if you haven't already, searching for people online that have shared similar experiences to what you're dealing with. It may not be exactly what you're going through, but it may be close enough that you're able to relate, and perhaps gain some insight how they've managed their male attention seeking.

You could also do the opposite and share your experience in other forums and websites so people that can relate to you reach out.

Just a thought.