Mishy, there's nothing wrong with a cuddle now and then... but in a marriage there's definitely something wrong with thinking that it's fair for one person to decide to take sex out of the relationship. For some people sexual intimacy is an essential part of a relationship, which is no less valid than things you think are essential.

You said that you need support from him, and it sounds like that's something you consider to be essential in your marriage. Would you be hurt if he decided one day that he didn't want to give you that support anymore? Of course you would. You'd be confused and upset and angry. You'd want to understand what's going on.

That could be how he's feeling right now. I would be if I were in his place. Have you talked together so each of you understands how the other feels? Have you told him exactly why you don't like to be touched and how it makes you feel? Has he told you how he feels when you reject his advances? And are the both of you in agreement about what to do next - is sex off the table permanently? Temporarily? Do you have plan on how to fix it?