Hey Erika, welcome to PsychCentral! I hope the time you spend here and the discussions you have will help you find some answers, or at least a path to explore. Couple questions, though. What do you define as a long term relationship? Has this change become apparent to your husband, enough he has inquired about it? Do you feel this lack of desire is detrimental to your relationship? Do you feel like you need this in your relationship? Have you noticed any similarities between your current and past relationships of situations or things leading up this drop in desire?
It's not at all uncommon in long term relationships for the "fire to go out" as it's often described. The time frame will vary relationship to relationship, but eventually most do experience a reduction or even cessation of passion and intimacy between each other. So you're not alone in that, not at all. That said, I must admit I lack the knowledge to provide well-fleshed theories or the like, so this is me just reaching out and starting a conversation. Hopefully, a bit of blundering through the brush will help us find a trail.
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