Ok ok... I misunderstood your use of the word cutting in the sentence... Sorry about that

Its hard to keep quiet when your bursting to "fight back" My husband went through a very rough spot around the time I was very ill and in and out IP 3-4 in a couple months... We argued alot. What I did learn to say is... Ok you and I are on separate pages and we need to drop it until later when we can speak and not bite at each other.. While we we took a break we both wrote down what we feel is the problem.. Later, sometimes hours later we talk about what we wrote and almost always there was no reason to argue about it..

The best thing I have ever learned about relationships is your might not like that person at the moment but thats anger talking.