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Originally Posted by MsLady
I didn't realize you were a male. Sorry.
Is it possible your ex friend was sexually attracted to you? Either his wife knew about his interest in men and felt uncomfortable with you hanging around, or she didn't know about it and you were a distraction to him. Pure speculation, here.
I do find it odd he can't hang out with his 'guy buddy' without his wife. Interesting.
As for your current friend, you don't have to have ASD to be socially oblivious and akward. Having said that, I guess you'll have to make a choice.. end this friendship, knowing his potential "Autism" is the root cause.. or let it go with the understanding that your friend is unintentionally hurting you due to the suspected label.
Why does this ex friend bother you so much? It was such a long time ago. He expressed it would be "uncomfortable" for them.. he didn't question your character or anything else.
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It's possible that my ex friend could have been attracted to me, but I personally doubt it. Another theory someone had was that his wife may have preferred me over him. In my speculation, after many years of analyzing, is that he probably didn't want me around because I would say things that would be upsetting. We did disagree a lot, especially just before he got married.
I thought that I went to far in thinking about my friend having autism. I think that it's still possible that he may have some form of it. I agree that those who were never diagnosed with autism can do the same thing. I still value his friendship a lot. He's a great guy. It's just mentioning my ex friend seems to be the only fault he has. And that can be remedied.
I guess the part that upset me the most is that my ex friend said that he didn't want me around because I was single. But yet he would spend some time with others who were single. So it appeared to be a lie to me. Also I had been doing fine forgetting about him altogether, even shortly after we had split up. But then my friend has to talk about my ex friend; so it brings back "triggers" for me. Other people I have spoken to about this have all said that my friend should have known better not to mention the ex after I had repeatedly told him I never want to hear about him.