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Originally Posted by Raptor leader
I started seeing this person and found out or observed the following:
1. Constantly talking to herself, mumbles to herself.
2. Told her about an incident and she promptly thought it was about her, although I clearly told her it was about someone else.
3. Sends the same SMS with comments like "thoughts of you turn me on", bit it feels like she just copies and sends the same message.
4. Was sleeping with another guy when we met but didn't tell me and then broke up with him a month into our relationship.
5. Invited same guy to her house and when he tried to kiss her responded and then told me it felt awkward and she told him to leave (she called him home to tell him they were breaking up)
6. Very proudly tells me off how she dobs in coworkers to senior management of her company bypassing local supervisors.
7. Sends me screenshots of her conversations with other people.
8. Sends me screenshots of her emails to her boss or her landlord.
9. Puts in irrelevant information in emails, for example she wrote, "my boyfriend xxx came in a white car to drop off a sofa, my old sofa is outside for collection for hard rubbish and my guy friend yyy said I need a new adaptor for my tv."
10. Tells her friends she is dating a fireman with a big package, instead of saying she is dating a nice guy.
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Does your girlfriend have a mental health diagnosis? Some of what she is doing sounds like she is attempting to engage you in her life, for example the screen shots of her emails to people, but I am not sure why she is sharing some of the other stuff. It also sounds like she does not realize how she comes across. How do you think she would react if you told her--gently but directly? "I'm uncomfortable with your telling me private information about your coworkers...if you think you must notify senior management, maybe you should do that quietly..." Her reaction to that would be illustrative I think. I've never discussed private things like #10 with my friends; and I have never understood women who do (or men who do something similar); I find it objectifying and would not want to associate with someone who didn't see me as a whole person.