Yes, diapers aren't something you necessarily want to have inadvertently shared with the world, so to speak. I'm not a member on ADISC. But I do some reading there. And in some cases I'm absolutely amazed at how open & accepting some people's spouses & significant others are to the idea of diapers & other "Little" things... onesies, adult pacifiers, plastic pants, etc. But then I ran across a post where one member said their spouse cut everything they had up & burned it in the fireplace! :eek

Recently I began seeing my pdoc again. And due to the current health situation, my first appointment was over the internet. My spouse graciously went to another part of our home so that I could have privacy. But even if she had not I don't think she would have heard anything she wasn't at least aware of at a basic level. Both my spouse, as well as my pdoc, are at least aware of my life-long gender identity issues (at least at the most superficial level although I've never gone into any detail on it with either one.) But I've NEVER breathed a word to ANYONE about diapers! I've never even mentioned it here on PC until now.

I believe what some DL's do in terms of wearing at work is to switch to pull-ups which are easier to wear discreetly. Perhaps your therapist's comment that she doesn't want you to become too dependent on diapers could be taken a couple of different ways. There's the emotional / psychological dependence... the comfort some people derive from them. But there can also be the physical dependence one can develop over time if one relies on nappies for their original purpose, so to speak.

There does seem to be some controversy regarding whether or not a person can become truly incontinent from using diapers for their originally intended purpose over an extended period of time. Some DL's seem to say they have actually developed a physical dependence from which it would be difficult to recover. Others seem to suggest that regardless, even if a person develops a physical dependence, they can always recover their self-control ability. I don't have any insight into that one.