I like the idea of making a decision.

Personally I like to look at a situation in terms of serenity prayer: can I change it? If yes then I change it. If it cannot be changed, then you got to accept it and find peace within yourself to not agonize about it.

Third option of not changing the situation and not accepting it, is a guaranteed life in turmoil and suffering. And sadly that it how many people live their entire life. We only have one life and it’s quite short. Spending it in suffering is not the best option imho.

Now I believe people can change some of their behaviors in a compromise with their partner. That’s why it’s important to tell your partner what bothers you. They can change some behaviors.

But I do not believe people can change who they fundamentally are. And we shouldn’t expect them to. We are either accept who they fundamentally are or we find more compatible partners.