As an adult, you can make a decision about where you want to live. About how you want to live. My parents once told me that in the old country, they could or would have killed me for my behavior and nobody would have minded. But in America, they would have been sent to jail, so they didnt. I spent a long long time in therapy. But i think therapists nowadays are more aware of this cultural difference and less apt to minimize it, as mine did. My fear was real, and no one ever helped me deal with it, and it had a bad effect on my life.