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Originally Posted by MsLady
I find that hard to believe, as well. I think sometimes people are unsure about what it is that's off putting about someone else .. and there could be a gazillion reasons why. I trust my gut instincts (I don't always listen to it, though) and keep my guard up a lot.
I agree, though.. they may not want to say why, either. Maybe it's an insecurity issue, or pettiness, or jealousy.. or they simply don't want to speak negatively about someone they don't like .. wouldn't that be super?
Reasons I may not like someone is if they appear arrogant, non-authentic, or gossipy. If they come off judgmental without concrete "evidence", or if they monopolize a conversation.
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Monopolizing conversation is a big turn off, some people make every conversation about themselves no matter what’s the topic and who is the audience. We all know people like that. And I could see when asked, people wouldn’t say what is the issue: you make everything about yourself? Not everyone would admit it
Yes sometimes it’s just a gut feeling. Hard to pin point right away. But when you give it a minute, it’s getting obvious. We have somebody at work who changes topic of every conversation and interrupts every meeting in order to talk about herself, then she doesn’t understand why people stir away from her