Hello everyone. I'm in Southern California, and have a question about what I think is a serious breach of confidentiality by me ex-therapist.

My GF of nine years totally cut me off by phone, texts, or emails, without warning in early August. We had one couples therapy session with the man who I ended up doing individual therapy with, and then she cut me off.

I was devastated over the way my GF was choosing to end our nine year relationship, and it was the main reason I was having seven sessions a week with him for about the first six weeks, then cut it back to three when I felt better.

I continued therapy with him from August through March of this year, and asked him at least a dozen times if he was in contact with my ex GF, and he always said no. I just had a feeling that he was, and then I was mistakenly copied in on an email exchange where my therapist and ex were collaborating to write the "perfect" email to me to appease me.

Ex: "How does this sound?" and sending him the email she carefully crafted to not give me too much hope, but still be positive in tone.

Therapist "That sounds good, but make sure you add this....When the powers that be deem it right, we can start off as friends and have contact again."

This infuriated me and I should have quit therapy with this guy right then and trusted my gut.

Then last week, I pulled the T-Mobile phone bills since my Ex and I had a shared account until November of last year, and could not believe what I saw.

There were a few calls a week to my therapist incoming and outgoing for as long as 64 minutes, 28 minutes, 38 minutes, etc., and multiple texts per day starting early morning till late at night, including pics texts.

I have done some research on this, and although my therapist keeps trying to justify it and rationalize it, saying he was trying to reunite us, I think it's a huge breach of trust and confidentiality, and him lying to me is so shocking to me.

He said "Nothing inappropriate happened," and I tell him that him lying to me and having any contact with her without my written consent is an egregious breach of confidentiality.

I hope some of you will weigh in and give me your opinions, because this has really angered and hurt me, and my therapist refuses to budge on his stance. ,

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