My wife and I have been having problems lately. She said she doesn't connect to me anymore. I feel like this stems from her ex who she has a child with. They haven't been together since she was 9 weeks pregnant and the child is now 2. I have been raising her as my own daughter since before she was even born. We have been in and out of court with her abusive ex. He was held in contempt of court in February and is still on supervised visits after 2 years.

Fast forward to now. Since COVID has been going on he hasn't had anyone to supervise his visits. So my wife decided to let him facetime our daughter until he can get back on schedule. This is a man that we had an order of protection against and a no contact order on for 2 years. It just expired in January. Since it expired he has been contacting my wife again by text and using our daughter as the reason. But before this he never hardly used his visitation at all. Only once the order of protection expired did he really start acting like he cared. I feel that this is totally to get back with my wife. We even meet him at a park so he could see the daughter. Which I don't feel like was anyone our duty to do that.

Because of the way this man is and all of the things he did to us before we got the order of protection my wife and I decided it was best to do parallel parenting with him and have very little contact at all. But now I feel like this is all out the window. When he video calls he ends up talking to my wife and it is just to personal for me. If I say anything at all she gets angry with me. I just thought when he called he would only be talking to the daughter. And I mean how long can you actually talk on the phone to a 2 year old? He will end up staying on the phone for over an hour and will end up chatting with my wife. This all makes me very uncomfortable and I have such an uneasy feeling.

Am I taking this the wrong way and should somehow not let it bother me? Or is there a reason I feel like this inside?