No 2-year olds would be on the phone for an hour (or chat).

What does the court order say about face time or video chat? I’d encourage your wife to follow court order and not do extra stuff. Flexibility is good when dealing with people who behave appropriately. You can’t be flexible with abusive people. I am concerned your wife is mad at you.

Well on the other hand it might not be up to you how much they stay on the phone. It’s hard to tell. I keep in touch with my ex (no abuse ever took place), our daughter is an adult on her own. But it’s usually brief and for a reason. I’d not like my husband telling me I shouldn’t ever talk to ex. But our infrequent conversations are very brief and typically a text so he doesn’t care. My husband probably felt weird and concerned if we chatted an hour. That’s too much