I agree. If court order says phone calls can begin at 7 than that's what should happen.

I get this guy is problematic and I fully hear your concerns! This problem is to do with your wife, though. A 2 year old can not sustain a lengthy conversation so I'm assuming mom is filling in the blanks with what she's been doing, what's she's into, little mishaps about her day, etc. It's part of sharing who the child is.

Having said that, over an hour phone call is excessive. She may be pulled into his antics and doesn't know how to get out of their conversation. Despite how horrible he is, there's comfort in speaking with the other parent about every little details our friends would be bored with. Maybe this is a piece for her since you mentioned she's feeling disconnected from you.

Have you tried family counseling to talk about this case specifically?