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Originally Posted by justneedtotalk76
I agree with everything you have said. I just didn't think she would be so friendly to him. I understand being cordial. But I just think this is excessive. I'm at a loss here. I have tried to communicate but I just can't get her to see or maybe to care how it makes me feel. This man did so many horrible things and to have to see him on that screen so often is really getting to me. I feel that he is a monster and we should only go by the court order. He has no boundaries and I know what he is capable of.
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It's very unsettling, I am sure, that she is even entertaining conversations with this monster beyond what needs to be said and discussed. I agree that being cordial is acceptable, but since this is upsetting you and triggering you, it seems inconsiderate on her part of your feelings in the matter. Ideally, she also considers how this impacts YOU, given that this man has caused so much trouble for the BOTH of you.
I would be quite upset if it were me, so I can understand your feelings completely. It would give me the creeps. And I would also feel confused by my partner's behavior.
If talking to her about him hasn't worked, what about just starting with why she feels disconnected from you right now? Perhaps this is a symptom of a problem that needs to be addressed first?