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Originally Posted by guilloche
Yes! Magnoliy - have you read about Meyers-Briggs personality typing at all, by chance?
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Not really but Im going to look that up now.
I know that personally I score very high on neuroticism and that quality can become quite visible under
negative stress sometimes.
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I relate to a lot of what you're saying. I crave deeper, more interesting conversations that go beyond people recounting the details of their lives (or their friends and families lives!)
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Some people may share certain things during these conversations even that they draw wrong conclusions from relatively simple events. Yet I do agree that the added value for the listener is usually negligible.
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I think that might be related to being "intuitive" (N) in Meyers-Briggs. People who are considered "intuitive" tend to focus on more abstract concepts and hypotheticals, how things will play out. Versus "sensors" (S) who are more concrete. Apparently, something like 75% of people are sensors, so they tend to be a bit more common out in the world
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Imo: the best conversation is nearly all about metaphors and abstract concepts. The interesting thing is that given the rarity of such conversations I couldn't give examples of what I even mean, if I had to explain this, as when such unusual events do happen, the flow of the conversation seems as natural and spontaneous as anything.
In other words I can not make up an example, yet there are 2-3 pl who Im blessed enough to know in real life who easily trigger a river inside that suddenly starts flowing and producing such abstract, weird, metaphoric things which are countered by whatever the other minds produce. Unfortunately such encounters are very rare in my life.
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I don't know how to find more people to have interesting conversations with though. And, I'm finding that (as an introvert) I tend to suck at actually initiating these conversations... I'm trying to be better at it, but I guess when most people don't share your interests, the chances that someone is going to respond positively when you toss out a conversational hook is low
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Imo: Im ready to listen anyone's
any interest for as long as he or she shows me the big picture of things, preferably in a funny way.. not sure whether this makes sense.
And this raises another trigger in my brain: to me it seems that by far most people seem to get lost in irrelevant details, by irrelevant I may also mean obvious one's or one's that mean no added value if discussed.
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he told me... "Well, I don't understand most of it, so I'm not sure. I just want to be able to say that I read it, because I think that's cool."
How do you respond to that? It's hard for me to imagine reading something just to impress people, how do you even work that into conversations if you can't talk about the content?!?
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I think it could make sense to fake intelligence like your friend is trying, since some gullible minds may buy into this and yield whatever perks there are (not sure which one's) but I can easily distinguish such fakes as truly intelligent people operate with what they have learned and
use the knowledge in ways that many others may not fully understand instead of claiming to know something.
And I respond to that in the worst possible way or by unfriending the person irl or/and online. Harsh but fair as such a person can not win over my friendship.