I also think your husband is being hard on you.

My parents were only interested in me if I was ''doing things well... aka perfectly'' ... that is a very small part of a very dysfunctional pattern.....- its a long story. Even then their ''interest'' was... imo about them. I wonder if your husband shares some of those traits. I hope not. It can be very difficult for people with those traits to understand and respect others. imo

I don't agree that you ''should'' be ''doing things'' like baking and knitting etc if you do not enjoy them. Unless it's necessary to ''do those things''

We only get one life. We may as well have some fun