Even if it is not a nice experience it is always nice to find someone who experienced the same stuff. Having no one that understands can be lonely.

I'm sort of the opposite to my ex friend, I want to know how and what people think from their standpoint, so I can understand them. I'm also "on the spectrum". But I don't see many similarities between out issues with that. Like I like socializing but I also need own time. She asked me why I'm not with my friends always since I have good friends. Her goal was finding someone to be near day and night. Basically never leave their side. I can also generalize, she could never learn stuff for school (or life) because she had to learn every little situation as separate. Also I sort of enjoy helping, I asked her help with two things all the time we knew each other and she said no. Most my friends have some type of autism o ADHD and none are cruel like her.

But thing is, most of us others, if we have a bad day, we feel bad taking it out on someone else if that happens. We know we did wrong. She thinks she always did right and it's someone elses fault. If she lies which is often, it's always someones fault. The times she had said sorry is when her mom instructed her to do so.

Many people made her a project to fix her. I'm glad I didn't think I could change her. I just tried for her to have a better life. It failed of course because she turned down all external help because "she didn't need that", she just needed a 24/7 friend. I wish she had picked up at that help at the beginning and maybe live in a group home, getting adapted school so she didn't need to cheat, and maybe she would learn to know herself. She said she wanted to know herself which I think in a way was honest, but she told me all her problems was cuz her mom didn't raise her right... Sigh, her mom sacrificed most things to teach her and help her. She refused the concept that this was something she was born with. Because she thought if her mom had been different she wouldn't have learning difficulties with everything when in fact her mom taught her all basics with a lot of patience. She said life was unfair because I was born in the country and I'm smart. I tried to tell her life isn't worst to her, but she thought she was the person worst off on the planet. She even said God did wrong that didn't let her grow up in Europe, cuz that would have been the right thing.

Ehh.. yea.

The weird thing is that she actually did learn a lot from me. Like how to hold a conversation and turn taking. How to use the Internet bank and how to read the bus time table. Also inspired her so she dared try learning some cooking. Big and small things. I wish she had been in a group home where people are paid to have her practice even more. And maybe go to a self help class. But if she wanted something her way it always turned out like that. Even if it was worse for her.

Babbling now.... but the absolute basic of everything is that it seems like these types of stalkers don't think they are stalkers. When we were still friends she could ask me if she should contact an old friend that had basically dumped or ghosted her. I said no of course. She told me she would follow my advice, next day it came out she had indeed contacted them and never gotten a reply and now she was crying because how could they be so cruel they can't even use five minutes on her. Then bawling for a full day. Kinda crazy but when she was sad she took pictures of her tears to send to others, to show them how much she hurt. IDK, it just makes me shudder.

No one has said I should contact her even to tell her to quit. I guess I can be really sure now that is the right way then. I can just block where I can block her, and try stop thinking of her. As for chat, I think I'll actually ask another moderator to kick her out, when she shows up. They wouldn't have a problem with that. Then I wouldn't even have to have that slight contact with her.

Thanks for letting me talk. Some things I can figure out fine, some things are like unfinished thoughts, then being allowed words, things might fall into place.

Thanks everyone for your input.