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Old May 01, 2020, 01:33 PM
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Originally Posted by justneedtotalk76 View Post
I wanted to be heard by someone and make sure what I am feeling is justified. I also want to try and patch things up with her and get back to where we our before he came back into the picture.

I can't keep avoiding it though. We do need to discuss this and set firm boundaries. I don't want to feel this way anymore and it isn't healthy for either of us. Thank you all for listening to me. I don't really like laying my problems on others, but didn't know where else to turn.
Your feelings are definitely justified... I think you've come around to a good solution, which is to talk with her more about this, to confront it and to talk it through so that you can both get to a better place, individually, and within your marriage. And you're right -- it's not healthy right now, and a third party is coming into the mix to make things more difficult. That should not be the case. It IS healthy, however, to address it together.

And that's what everyone is here for -- to support you, to listen and to try and help in any way we can.

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