Thats a good list

Can you build onto that to where your starting off with specific distractions or mindfulness to use when you just start to feel any anxiety or other unwanted feeling

Like a specific list of distractions.. Some might sound silly but I have used these in the past and it helps

* pick a color.. Any color you like and go around your room and count how many you can find, then move into the rest of your home, Walk outside still focus on one color...
* another big one for me is polishing my nails , fingers and toes.. My T laughs because my nail polish is almost always what mood state I am in.. If I am sad, they are some shade of blue, When I get angry they are a deep red color. If I wear Black he knows I am in a terrible head space.... When I have been mixed I have had different color nail polish on each finger and toe... But the process of picking the color has me focused on something specific.
* Yoga works for alot of people, but I prefer when feeling unsafe and angry I do cardio, Push for that" burn" is another focus on something specific.

I could go on and on . but when your mind is scattered and going south you need to find just one thing to focus on. a color, a word, a sound etc

At what stage of being unsafe do you take an Ativan??