I've been stalked several times before, but this one was the worst and I took way too long to realize how out of whack it was since I was so shocked. There was a lot of, "no way, this isn't happening. I'm not seeing it correctly."
That stalker is a master of manipulation and projection. As he was destroying his room for the umpteenth time he was screaming that I was out of control. My not responding to him and ignoring him is rude and evil. But if I would see fit to beg forgiveness and give into his lust I could be forgiven. Today's round of emotional dysregulation was beyond anything I had seen. He literally punched holes in his walls about every two feet along all four walls. His bed was overturned, trash was strewn across the floor, picture frames were shattered, clothing was torn and cut. His videos were pure, violent rage of him screaming obscenities at me, calling me all sorts of horrible things while he destroyed everything around him. I blocked him for the umpteenth time, he texted me from another number (likely a burner phone), I blocked it, he texted me from another number, I blocked it. This went on seven times today, but maybe he ran out of burners now. It was the same with email.
Wow, she reacted that way to a compliment? You did say that she displayed some paranoia, right? And the justification too! Even after I told stalker boy that his **** pics and his selfie porn videos were disgusting he said I needed it because all guys do that. He had the nerve and audacity to demand that I use those for myself! Oh, and like yours, the utter lack of shame or empathy.
I think, like you said, they rely on the shock value to get away with what they do. There was a point where I thought to myself, no one is going to believe me this is so bizarre. Like yours, mine would make bizarre statements like that. I'm a little older than he is and he would always make these weird, you're going to be so old. I want us to be old, comments. Like he was obsessed with wanting me to me old. But the "you will die soon," comment. Wow, that is off the charts. Again, with your illness, an utter lack of empathy. With mine, my health, my sleep, my career, my needs and my feelings all paled in comparison to his sexual demands.
Wow, in the time it took me to write this, I got 30 texts from a new phone number and 20 emails from a new account.
He once tried to kiss me in my house and he got this...like the cat backing up when cornered.
Oh yeah, they can put on a good face at times. Most of our mutual friends saw it so they knew the truth. Others were like, no, not awkward, shy L? He's too shy to be like that. Yes, mine is in full panic mode. I read part of one text, demanding that I unblock him. Wow, dramatic displays and threats of self harm seem to be central to our stalkers!
I know, right. I would never force myself into a group or upon an individual who didn't want me. It sounds like we both made it crystal clear to our stalkers.
Like you, my stalker should be more afraid of me physically. I told him on a few occasions when he started to become violent that I was taller, faster, stronger, had more stamina and almost two decades of martial arts training while he got winded running a block and could barely life a cinder block. Oh yeah, he once demanded that I cease all training with other males and train with him...so we ran down that block and he about collapsed. I said see yah and kept running.
Take care Jimi. I think your fuzzy friends in your avatar are adorable!