I personally said I didn’t think it would work because you stated here that you will never tell him about your illness, and because you said “ he is in for a ride” - though I am not exactly sure what you meant by that?

And now I’m confused based on your last post. Are you now planning on telling him, but after he’s gotten to know you better? And I agree with you that it's not necessary right off the bat to reveal, and that it's important to let him see you for who you truly are so no judgements are made early on. I do get that part fully. But I do think generally speaking it's best to reveal a mental illness at some point and earlier than later within a relationship.

The only reason why I didn’t think it would work is if you never tell him and he finds out on his own.

What also is troubling is that he cannot accept someone with a mental illness -- so you would be hiding a part of yourself from him that he does not accept or want.

I personally wouldn't get involved with someone who couldn't be at least understanding of a personal struggle and compassionate about it. It tells me he may not have much compassion for those who struggle.