Well clearly your bedroom issue isn’t going to be resolved as you've been struggling with it for too many years. Honestly you have to find other outlets for whatever is that you want in the bedroom. He obviously can’t give it to you the way you want it. It’s not as simple as him refusing to wash dishes. Sexual incompatibility might also be due to being in different place in life? Age wise? Hormones wise? Difference in libido? That’s not uncommon

If you are compatible in all other areas and want to stay married, then I’d find ways to deal with it. Lots of people aren’t 100% compatible in all areas.