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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
Why do you allow him to talk critically and barely say anything nice to you? You can voice how that’s not acceptable and you won’t take it. Many would have spoken up at the first sign of that kind of treatment. He either would have began to speak more kindly or who knows? Would he hit you?
My husband influenced my clothes by buying me clothes he liked. They weren’t my style. Heck, they looked like clothes his mother wore.  But I wore them and let him mould me. He wasn’t mean about it. He also made little comments that affected me, but not in a mean way. For example, he’d mak up a little song about my spending too much money. It was a joke, but it really wasn’t. So, I didn’t spend much money. At least he was nice and not nasty, but still, he did affect me in style and behavior. I didn’t mind.
I wouldn’t stand for verbal abuse about everything, though. I’d open a mouth and be done with that relationship in a heartbeat. |
I’m somehow the one who has the pan from the hand. I win more money, I have a flat I have a mortgage on. He contributes what he can with his salary and some houses expenses and the car we have just acquired.
He sometimes got physical by breaking up stuff or rising a hand without hitting me. I told him that if he touched me, I won’t let it.
I have tried to talk to him about it all and how I want to be treat and he seems to understand at the beginning but then, the bad habits take the charge and I’ve been looking for many excuses. Not only for him. It also happens to me with other people, so, I understand I can do much more about it.