Have Hope many people live in bad situations until kids are closer to adulthood. Many are afraid that if they don’t get full custody and will not be with kids full time, kids will be abused or neglected or mistreated. Many are afraid for financial reasons. And many are threatened. So at least waiting until kids are somewhat grown might protect them

My husband still has a file with my husband’s ex’s threats to him if he divorced her, he kept it because it would be an evidence if something did happen to him. It’s irrelevant now so we might destroy it at some point. I don’t want to hijack the thread but people stay for some scary reasons

Not saying it’s the case with OP but likely reason is kids and guilt and sense of responsibility etc

And at this point he’d have to support himself, his kids, his ex and maintain two separate households. It can’t be easy