ltrredvett

Thanks for your replies. Geekgirl--well, really am geek for a living. Technical writer... it's a title of honor where I work... I'm a consulting technical writer.

I know my ex has his own demons to conquer. I did take a lot of things personally. I really don't have a problem with porn per se... it's there, it exists. Big deal... it doesn't do anything for me. Like food I don't like to eat... others will like it and eat it. But, it became an obsession with him and because of that and the affair, I felt alone and rejected.

If his needs weren't being met in the marriage, why would he do this? Why not have a quiet, rational discussion about what's happening? Why hurt someone like that?