I really believe this is a challenge worth exploring. You can take in as much advice until you're blue in the face, but if you don't bring yourself to use any of it, then you become stuck.

I think part of the problem is that you're looking at a big picture with a whole lot of "flaws". As valuable as that is sometimes, you also need to figure out your starting point.

What do you want to address first? Can you make a list of "troubles" (for lack of a better word) and rate them in order of priorities?