Since you didn't ask for advice, I won't offer any. But I think a vent might merit an observation, which is: be careful what you wish for. If I had a nickel for every man who complains about his self-centered wife, I'd have a lot of nickels. There is something about these women that men find irresistable, so irresistable they marry them. And same goes for women and their self-centered hubs. I don't doubt it goes for same sex relationships too. In my experience, most people either rise to the level of expectation...or they book. So before you take either of those ideas as criticism--they are not. I think there are a lot of different kinds of women in the world, and it seems to me like the kind your wife is, is powerfully attractive to men. You said yourself you had a powerful attraction to her. My other observation, well, I've seen it in business and in my private life. People either live up to our expectations (and by that I mean they live up to the knowledge they have of our expectations) or they leave. It's human nature.