Yes, his wife and he are separated but he remains married and will not divorce her. They are both doing their own things and living their own lives. Yes, from a Christian perspective, mistresses are not permissible, I understand. But, as someone who is living abroad and in an East Asian society, mistresses are not seen as taboo here. You are quick to judge me, but don't know the whole situation which I'm involved. I also think that being a mistress is not ideal for everybody but know that for me, it is acceptable. I say this because I don't want to get married. I also say this because most men my age who are decent are married. I have no plans to marry whatsoever. I don't think any man could stand my family and the way I live. I am happy the way I am. I live for myself and can't please all. I also don't need to be acceptable by all. Thank you for your input though. I expected it. I am not angry but understand your viewpoint. I used to be like you too. However, life is not so perfect where one's ideals are met all of the time. I don't know how old you are, but for me, I'm happy with him. And, his wife is doing her own thing and happy too. I would not get involved with someone who is Christian though and is married because I understand his values are being compromised. This man is Muslim and is allowed three wives by his teachings.