It is very helpful. One of my hestitancies in the past has been that the police here are very aggressive about hauling someone in. Very aggressive court system with little mental health training.

The replies here have been helpful. It really shows me that I need to start worrying about me. And, stop trying to control the outcome so it doesn't hurt her. She has been trouble with the law so she knows how this area is. Basically, I need to realize what you said---that her problems don't excuse threatening people. It has taken me awhile to get to that point because I feel like "I caused it" if she escalates things with the police and she gets in trouble. Guess that shows how messed up my thinking has been her. All the "what ifs" don't compare to the level of intimidation that has been occuring recently. I just need to get out and stay away. And, use the police to help. As hard as that is for me.

Thanks again.