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Originally Posted by RDMercer
Yeah. I am.
You arent the first to say it.
Counselors have told me as well. When the first said it, I quit going to her, because I thought she was too extreme. The next one said it too.
I cant tell you the personal insults, name calling and berating I take regularly. If I push back by simply saying, that too much, youve gone too far, the winning argumeng of porn is played, and Im asked to slerp elsewhere.
Ive stopped being scared of these. Her opinion matters less and less.
I'll not be mistreated for much longer.
Things will change, or I will build an apartment in the house for me, or she'll leave.
Ive been afraid of distance, of not having her. Letting go has been pretty peaceful.
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I’m glad you recognize and see that you are being mistreated.
Name calling, insults and berating are forms of verbal abuse. She is also using the porn as a weapon against you in order to win every argument and avoid taking any responsibility.
I tend to agree with Divine on this point and thought the same exact thing myself: that your wife sounds narcissistic. It is all about her needs and every little thing revolves around her. Quite frankly, I now believe that you’re being emotionally and verbally abused.
I’m glad you’re stepping back and will no longer cater to her as you have been. I’m sure that does bring you a sense of peace.