I personally oppose to porn and don’t have it in our marriage but if I had a partner who sat around while I did everything and berated me and showed me no kindness or affection whatsoever, I don’t know what I would do, maybe worse than porn. You are only human. People do all kind of stuff in desperation.

I don’t want to diagnose online. It was just a suggestion that she might be showing some signs of few personality disorders, particularly because of her behavior being rather extreme

She needs to seek proper mental and physical treatment. Her meds might need adjustment. What would she do if she didn’t have you to do everything? Would she seek proper help and at least occasionally get off the couch? Perhaps she would. Would she be as nasty if she had a husband who isn’t as nice as you? I bet you not. She acts like this because she can.

You are good enough and then some. Trust me there are ton of good women who’d be delighted to have you as a partner. And your kids are lucky to have you as a father