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Originally Posted by RDMercer
Her anger is bottomless.
I also think anger can be substituted for hurt...
Her hurt is bottomless.
She has been hurt and betrayed by multiple people close to her. Me included.
She is stuck, cant move forward, cant move past it.
Shes in physical and emotional pain every day.
Her body has betrayed her.
She cant even think like she used to.
Theres reasons why Ive taken so much, and reasons why Ive done a lot of it alone to keep others out of it.
But Im tired. Im tired of no peace. Right now Im keeping my distance and its good.
Maybe this will spur a change.
Goodnight
RDM
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I think you have a pretty good understanding of a lot of what your wife is challenged with.
Yes I believe she does have a great deal of hurt and it’s caused her a lot of suffering and she doesn’t feel SAFE to love. THIS makes her angry.
Yes I can believe that any hurt you share with her, her response is and probably will be that she hurts more.
Love = HURT/TRAUMA to her. She may even be jealous that you can love and she can’t. You can love your parents and she can’t. She loves her children but doesn’t have a safe love with them like you can. And her anger about all this probably IS bottomless.
She may even experience apathy and disassociates a lot. She also probably grieves a lot. Lots of losses that challenge can ruin a marriage. Hard when LOVE = HURT to someone.